August 23rd, 2005

AC Pensive

"The Path to Recovery"

93, all!

I read a friend's (quite properly: very personal stuff) locked post, and found myself answering (a) at too-great length for a comment, and (b) with some advice that might interest a broader audience...hence this post. The friend is (like so many have!) walking away from a destructive relationship which proved not only highly unpleasant, but a distraction from the Path. Herewith, some initiatory advice.

1. First priority: Disengage.
Let's start with the bottom line: what you're really wrestling with is something in you, not in them: specifically, the part of you which either fears this situation, finds it attractive, or both. Here's how to proceed. Collapse )